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Womens Health And Personal Relationships
A research study has shown that women who experience 'attachment' insecurities, show reduced activity in the cells that defend them against illnesses (Journal of Psychosomatic Medicine).
Nobody knows the state of your family health or personal relationships better than you. Your intimate knowledge, understanding and awareness of this aspect of your wellness dimensions make you the expert on knowing what you want, when you want it and with whom.
That is of course, until your emotions get the better of you and all your best laid plans go flying out of the window. You see, when your emotions become involved, it is easy to be influenced into pursuing a goal you may not truly want.
While compromise within close personal relationships may well be easier when both partners share the same goals. With the transition of time and the various changes both will undergo however, what was once a shared goal may no longer be the case. As a consequence, the dynamics of a personal relationship will change in line with both parties' changing goals.
A key issue for some women's health and personal relationships relate to their treating their partner as an extension of themselves. Accordingly, it is easy to see how a woman might imagine that what she want is also what her partner want. Making these kinds of assumptions however, is walking on very dangerous territory. How aware are you really, when you ass-u-me? Which, incidentally can be translated into 'you making an ass out of U and me - when you-assume-to-know-me'.
Yet, waking up to the reality that a partner has thoughts, feelings, emotions and goals that are very different to their own can have a significant impact on womens health and personal relationship. This in turn can cause a great deal of pain, anguish and even feelings of rejection.
When considering your womens health and personal relationships wellness, bear in mind that every decision you make within your personal relationship, will always have consequences. If you simply continue to assume rather than communicate, you not only change the dynamics within a healthy relationship but you run the risk of overriding your partner's wants and needs too.
It is not too difficult to see how your pursuit of your womens health and personal relationship ideals, can actually contribute to such a situation. At the outset of any personal relationships, both parties tend to be open about what they want or don't want from the relationship. For instance, your partner may make it clear s/he don't ever want to get married or, don't want to have a baby etc., Yet, for a variety of reasons one party may harbour notions of being able to change the other's mind or thinking over time. When this fails to materialise however, feelings of betrayal, of being let down or even of being cheated, can arise on both sides. The fact that clear individual choices have been made at the very beginning, can get lost, because the boundaries have become blurred. This blurring will not only have a significant impact on womens health and personal relationships, but also on the other parties concerned.
Making choices is always difficult in such situations, especially when a woman feel as if she is caught between a rock and a hard place. However, maintaining the 'status quo' rarely work and will do nothing to improve your woman's health and personal relationship. If anything, it will only bring greater pain in the long run. A woman will either beat up on herself or direct all her frustration, anger or dis-satisfaction toward your partner.
Central to many women's health and personal relationships, is the uncanny knack of knowing deep down exactly what it is they want. Women's own fear however can often suppress their wants. But could it also be the case that, that which is feared the most is perhaps the consequences of pursuing what they want?
Your womens health and personal relationships wellness calls for a great degree of self-honesty. And while facing the situation honestly may well not change anything, it will force a choice/decision which, though painful in the short-term, will nevertheless bring a halt to more longer-term dis-satisfaction and unhappiness.
Womens Health And Personal Relationship Goals
What are your womens health and personal relationships goal? Remember, that your personal goals must focus on the positive you want to bring into your life. Goals for building relationships should not involve you exerting 'control' over another person, nor articulated in terms of making someone do what you want them to do.
In just the same way your womens health and personal relationship goals are important to you, you must also recognise the same is true for your partner. Goals for building relationships cannot be centred around forcing or bullying someone into doing something that you want, so do avoid setting goals that involve 'controlling' or 'blaming' your partner. Here is an example of what I mean.
Instead of writing your goal as: 'I want to "make" my partner more considerate of my needs', own the goal issue, by clearly identifying that what you need is to improve your skills to communicate more effectively with your partner. you cannot "make" your partner listen to you, nor "make" s/he talk to you, nor make them pay you more attention. Instead, focus on how and what you need to develop in order to better communicate your needs to your partner.
Similarly, blaming, achieves nothing. When you blame, you are refusing to own responsibility as well as a commitment to finding a solution to the challenge you are experiencing. If for instance you believe that your partner undermines you, you will more than likely write a goal to that effect. A more constructive goal however, is to set a goal that reflect your own shortfall and need to become more assertive with your partner.
The goalsetting advice throughout this site, has been to set personal health goals based only on what you want and not what other people want. You might well wonder how is this possible when setting relationship goals, on account of there being two people involved. This however, should not prevent you from articulating your goals, based on your role in helping to find a solution to any challenges or barriers in your personal relationship.
Nor should your women's health and personal relationships goal- setting activity be approached from a 'problem-oriented' mindset. whether you consider your relationship to be strong or in need of some TLC, it is a good idea to set some healthy relationships goals and not simply become complacent. Healthy relationships which incidentally also include family health goals, need a good dose of focused relationship management. Whether this will take the form of external relationship advice or relationship counselling, the fact of the matter is that you won't know the true state of your personal relationship or the extent of relationship help you need, without taking action!
To get you started, here are some examples of positively framed womens health and personal relationship goals:
As with any other goals, when you set your womens health and personal relationship management goals make sure your focus in squarely on what you want to bring into your life - not what you want to get rid of.
You can assess your current level of satisfaction in your womens health and personal relationships dimension, by carrying out this wellness wheel exercise. Don't forget to use your journal to record how any issues in your personal relationship are affecting you.
You will further find all the help you need to set your women's health and personal relationships goals at activity goal setting.
"To attract attractive people, you must be attractive. To attract powerful people, you must be powerful. To attract committed people, you must be committed. Instead of going to work on them, you go to work on yourself. If you become, you can attract". (Jim Rohn)
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